Knowing yourself is the initial mandatory requirement,rather than loving oneself,before you love another
To love self or to love someone else,it is essential that one knows oneself well, The knowledge of our strengths,our weaknesses,our capability of adjustments,sharing, cooperation and our ability to accept the others is the basic reqirement to start any relationship, We must know the expectations we have,if any ,in that relationship and our limitations to go into a relationship with someone supirior or less privelaged than us,without getting complexed
For this interoception and spending time with oneself,analysing ones own views is a must. Loving oneself can follow but only after we know ourselves well and this should be done cautiously,Loving oneself without knowing self can be dangerous.Once we start loving ourselves then it becomes difficult to adjust in most relationships. We are then a bit difficult to accept veiws of others and even healthy critisism
Men are definately as emotional as women,if not more,and they should not hesitate in expressing it,Provided the expressed emotions are genuine, Fake emotions lead to fake relationships.Even fake and halfhearted acceptances and patchups can be dangerous for any relationship.Anger though a common emotion,should not be the only one to be expressed to show possevenesss or hurt
Know yourself,know the other and then get into a relationship. love will automatically follow, But let knowing self and other be a continuos process,Age,time circumstances and comitments keep changing every indivisual,and accepting these is essential for continuation of any healthy relationship
Sanjay Kapoor