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16Feb 2011 by Sanjay Kapoor 1 Comment

RAM

WAS RAM ACTUALLY MARYADAPURUSHOTTAM ! I am not sure if Ram ,was actually the incarnation of GOD,or even if he was a historic figure,but he is definitely the hero of the great Indian epics,Ramayana and Ramchatramanas,where Balmiki and Tulsidass have presented him as the ideal man ! Ram,as characterized in these epics,is supposed to be the Supreme man-the savior of prestige and honor ! Born in Ayodhya as the eldest son of raja Dashratha,after the consumption of the Kheer received as prasad from the Agni Devta,following a havan,by his mother( Probably artificial insemination ! )he was an adorable child , an obedient student and a great son.He married Sita after a Swamwar,and happily sacrificed the throne and willingly left for fourteen years of exile,to fulfill the wish of his step…

02Oct 2009 by Sanjay Kapoor No Comments

HARRASSED HUSBANDS

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India Today,in its last issue for Aug 2009,ran an article titled,UNHAPPILY HARRIED, which was a real eye opener,even for me,who always felt,that men,were tortured at home,more frequently than thought of.It focused on SAVE INDIAN FAMILY FOUNDATION (SIFI),which comprises of 25 NGOs and 40,000 members,all husbands,victims of domestic violence Without sounding like a MCP or a Woman Hater,I extend all my sympathies to all these men,and to innumerable more,who don't muster the courage to come in public.I do not deny,that domestic violence,against women,is very rampant in India,and probably the whole world,but men being tortured is prevalent too,though may be in a lesser proportion.Though latter may exist in ant caste or religion ,or social strata,husband bashing is a little more common in certain states like,Bengal,Maharashtra and the eastern India .While it…

12Jul 2009 by Sanjay Kapoor No Comments

CHANGING EMOTIONS

emotions, GENDERS, love, relationships

Changing emotions Emotions in relationships, are undergoing an obvious change these days, with a sense of casualness creeping in, specially in some women, who think that they should treat men as they are , carefree, unreliable and unemotional, a reputation that they have unluckily had since eternity! The women who get into these temporary relations, where they use men and company as a post-dinner commodity, to be used and discarded are confused and insecure. In their new Avtaar of liberated women, they really don’t know what they want from a relation or from a man, they are doing this just for the heck of it and there is nothing emotional about it. The emotions of a man have always been misunderstood. Men are as emotional as…

06Jul 2009 by Sanjay Kapoor No Comments

ROLE OF DADS

attitude, bringing up children, emotions, GENDERS, interpersonal relationship, itrapersonal relationship, Kids and teenagers, love, relationships, social trends, society

DADDY -O-DADDY ! It is heartening to see that a day has been earmarked for dads as well,as Fathers day,as there is a Mothers Day ! The role of a father in a child's life has gone a revolutionary change in the last two decades or so,and has almost broken the water tight compartmentalization,that existed between the roles of mom and dad ! But be it his previous role,or the new avtaar,one person and relation,that has been the biggest victim of the gender bias,has been the Father !And this has come down since eternity,in mythology,literature,stories and poetry.Even Bollywood has not been left behind in this discrimination,as while there are innumerable movies and songs on Ma ki mamta,there are hardly any on Pita ka pyaar ! Without undermining…

10May 2009 by Sanjay Kapoor No Comments

A MOMs JOB

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A woman, renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk 's office, was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself. 'What I mean is, ' explained the recorder, 'do you have a job or are you just a ?' 'Of course I have a job,' snapped the woman. 'I'm a Mom.' 'We don't list 'Mom' as an occupation' 'housewife' covers it,' Said the recorder emphatically. I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like, 'Official Interrogator' or 'Town Registrar.' 'What is your occupation?' she probed. What made me say it? …

10May 2009 by Sanjay Kapoor No Comments

THE JOURNEY OF A MOM

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MOTHER is the most beautiful creation of god or is she GOD herself she not only brings us in this world,but fills our world with life and keeps doing so till her last breath and even after that everyday is a mothers day,and this special day is worth celebrating by all to convey our luv and respect for that great woman called MOM A young mother set her foot on the path of life. "Is this the long way?" she asked. And the guide said "Yes, and the way is hard. And you will be old before you reach the end of it. But the end will be better than the beginning." But the young mother was happy, and she would not believe that anything could be better…

15Feb 2009 by Sanjay Kapoor No Comments

CYBER RELATIONSHIPS

love, relationships, Sex, Sexuality and Sexual Trends, social trends

The world seems to be overreacting to Cyber-relationships Being naughty and glad-eye is normal human nature. Flirting or even sex-chatting is not infidility,The spouses, mainly wives are just getting scared due to insecurity, Every individual, married or single has right to his of her emotional, romantic and sexual fantacies.The last two of these will normally not have the spouse in it, Net gives an outlet to these fantasies. It’s as harmless as watching or reading pornography. Net cannot be blamed for extramarital affairs, as persons inclined to it, will indulge in it, irrespective of net-sex. People indulging in net-chat to any extent, can be sincere spouses and those not practicing it, are not above infidelity. So. spouses crying and worrying over the fear of loosing their life partners to the net-freind,…

13Feb 2009 by Sanjay Kapoor No Comments

VALENTINE’S DAY

friendship, love, relationships, social trends

THE STORY OF VALENTINE'S DAY Every February, across the country, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious saint and why do we celebrate this holiday? The history of Valentine's Day — and its patron saint — is shrouded in mystery. But we do know that February has long been a month of romance. St. Valentine's Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. So, who was Saint Valentine and how did he become associated with this ancient rite? Today, the Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the…

06Feb 2009 by Sanjay Kapoor No Comments

KNOW AND LOVE YOURSELF

emotions, GENDERS, interpersonal relationship, itrapersonal relationship, love, relationships

Knowing yourself is the initial mandatory requirement,rather than loving oneself,before you love another To love self or to love someone else,it is essential that one knows oneself well, The knowledge of our strengths,our weaknesses,our capability of adjustments,sharing, cooperation and our ability to accept the others is the basic reqirement to start any relationship, We must know the expectations we have,if any ,in that relationship and our limitations to go into a relationship with someone supirior or less privelaged than us,without getting complexed For this interoception and spending time with oneself,analysing ones own views is a must. Loving oneself can follow but only after we know ourselves well and this should be done cautiously,Loving oneself without knowing self can be dangerous.Once we start loving ourselves then it becomes difficult to adjust…

05Feb 2009 by Sanjay Kapoor No Comments

BREATHING SPACE !

friendship, love, relationships

Commitment doesnt mean surrendering personalities ! each of us are unique and have the right to live lives our way,within the norms of society and without depriving others of their rights or hurting dear and near ones being differant does not mean being indifferant we can luv each other without aping the person we luv we need our breathing space Sometimes we feel relationships are all about supporting each other in times of need. That's what friends and family are for, we think. But there are times when we go overboard in our expectations. We expect their lives to hinge on our feelings and opinions. For instance, you've been ill for a while now. Is it fair to expect your family and friends to do little other than rally…